Having a positive mindset is the key to achieving your goals and becoming the best version of you. I can say this with clarity and purpose having completely changed my life by changing the way I think and the way I view the world. I have lost over seven stones and sustained the loss for two years, despite over 30 years of binge eating and yo-yo dieting. I’ve changed my career, giving up a six-figure salary role to become a Mindset Mentor and speaker. It’s meant I’ve had to curb my shopping habits and yet I’ve never been happier. I’ve recovered from mental health conditions and developed a love of exercise which has seen me become a UK record holder in kettlebell sport. I’ve even written a best-selling book. I now believe that if somebody has achieved something, it’s possible I can too, and the good news is, so can YOU.
If you start the day with positive attitude it grows like wildfire and causes more positive thoughts and outcomes. Amazing things that you don’t expect start to happen and you spread joy to everyone around by presenting your best-self.
I think of my best-self like a garden. If I don’t tend to the weeds in the garden, they quickly overtake the blooms. It’s the same with negativity, if it isn’t kept in check, it stifles positivity and stops me from flourishing.
To keep my best-self blooming I practice positivity every day.
Here’s my top ten tips for you to do the same.
Approach everything with ‘I can’
When you take on a task, be it exercise, work, parking, cooking, anything! Tell yourself you can do it, even if you don’t believe it to be true. Telling yourself you can do something means you are more likely to succeed because the unconscious mind helps us achieve the things we tell it we can do. Conversely, if you repeat the words ‘I can’t’ then that will likely be the outcome too.
Be your own cheerleader
Take a few moments each day to reflect on the things you have achieved. In a world where external validation is craved by many, learning to accept one’s own praise as the best kind of praise is critical. It’s a key step in ensuring strong self-worth so grab those pom-poms and celebrate every success, no matter how small.
Put Fire in Your belly
Find a song that makes you want to get up and dance and load it onto your smart phone. Whenever you feel your mood take a nose dive or you need a spurt of energy or motivation, play the Fire in Your Belly track. My personal favourite is The White Stripes, Seven Nation Army and it never fails to get me raring to go for a run.
Plant a pound
Giving is amazing as it not only benefits those receiving, it also benefits the giver. Doing it without the recipient knowing is even more beneficial. Engage in an activity such as ‘Plant a Pound.’ Whenever you can afford it, plant a pound somewhere a stranger can find it. Leave it on a bench, on a shop shelf or beside a car in a carpark. Try to imagine how a stranger might feel when they find the pound and how they will spend it. This small action will deliver a significant amount of joy to them and YOU.
Glitter-Coat your Mondays
Happiness Expert, Dr Andy Cope reminds us that we spend a 7th of our life living on Monday. That’s a lot of Mondays so stop waking up and wishing it was Friday. Every single Monday delivers 1440 minutes for you to be amazing, so dip your Mondays in glitter and sparkle your way through every single one of those 24 hours. Who says Monday can’t be the best day of the week?
Be your Biggest Commitment
If you’re not your number one priority, your priorities are in the wrong order. No matter how many dependents, responsibilities or demands on your time you have; to be the best version of you for others, you need to put yourself at the top of the tree. Spending time on self-care and taking your own needs seriously will allow you to be a better, partner, parent, carer or colleague so don’t neglect yourself.
Consider yourself a Masterpiece
Most people want to improve their lives in some way, be it career, home, weight, fitness or looks. It’s fabulous to have goals and aspirations when it comes to getting better if you keep one thing in mind; You are a masterpiece just as you are. This premise of being ‘enough’ is critical because without it, no amount of improvement will ever feel satisfactory and you will drive yourself mad continually striving for more. If you come from a place of feeling happy and content with who you are then any steps you take to flourish will be recognised by you as successful. To believe you are magnificent now, train your unconscious mind by repeating the affirmation ‘I am a masterpiece and I choose to feel happy’ and think of self-improvement as purely adding a frame.
Curb the Green-Eyed Monster
It’s easy to let jealousy get in the way of your own progress. If you find yourself saying things like ‘It’s ok for him because’ or ‘if I had money, I’d be able to’ then now is the time to have a word with yourself. Instead of observing through green eyes, look through eager eyes instead. What is it that this person does that you can copy and bring about similar results for you? The chances are you’ll be feeling jealous because this person is highlighting your own insecurities so dig deep and compliment the very thing that is making you feel the pang of envy, and then get out there and make it happen for you.
Mind your Language
Be mindful about the language you use to describe yourself because you are always listening and what you think, you become. Tune in and recognise how often you tell yourself you are useless, stupid or fat and STOP doing it. Speak about yourself with the utmost respect. There are two quick wins you can implement immediately for instant change. When asked how you are answer ‘I’m really great, thank you’ rather than ‘I’m not too bad’ or ‘I’ve been better’ and never, ever describe yourself as ‘just’. I hear people say ‘I am just a mum’ or ‘I just work in a shop’. You are so much more than ‘just.’ If you do insist on using the word just, follow it with ‘a badass.’
Be a Superhero
Researcher Amy Cuddy has proven that if you stand in the stance of a superhero for five minutes before an interview, exam or speech, it heightens your performance. Next time you need a confidence kick, stand in a superhero pose with hands on hips and chin up and you’ll be ready to smash it like Batman or Super Girl.
The ultimate way to stay positive is to practice gratitude. No matter how many clouds are in your sky, there is always sunshine somewhere, so every evening, write down 3 things you are grateful for and aim to make them non-material things. This really will show you how lucky you are to be alive.