Don’t sweat the small stuff

As the festive season gets closer, the Christmas trees start popping up and the buzz of excitement starts to build, so too does the level of stress.  It seems to ooze from the pores of passers-by as they go about their day, hustling, tutting and bustling around the busy shops and markets.  The never ending ‘to do’ list, battle for the last car-parking space and hunt for this year’s ‘must have’ children’s toy seems to create a sense of frenzy that leaves many of us feeling frazzled.

Yesterday I found myself in a state of flux as I tried in vein to articulate the department I required on one of those voice activated call direction services.  Oh my goodness, how difficult can it be to say the words ‘refunds and exchanges’. I’m from Bolton, and whilst this makes my accent slightly more difficult to detect, I’m not from Timbuktu.  I recorded my own audio book so it really can’t be that bad can it? According to the phone system, yes it is!  Try as I might, no amount of repetition was going to make me understood.

I found myself having an argument with my mobile phone and could almost see the steam coming out from my ears!  Have you ever been there?  I caught myself doing it and then on realising how completely ridiculous it was, I proceeded to laugh at myself.

Being a person who likes everything done at record pace and with as little pain as possible, an automated phone system is never going to fill me with joy.  My lovely husband usually takes on this type of task for me as he knows how frustrated I become.

And herein lies the lesson.  Stop sweating the small stuff.  When we have a lot on our plates it’s often the small frustrations or interruptions to the flow that can send us over the edge.  In the grand scheme of things though, is it really worth the energy that we gift to it? We have to do it and so why wrap it up in so much negativity?  This only serves to make us feel worse.

How are we able to tackle the big tasks, the ones that take thought, consideration, planning, effort and graft and do them well and yet something like smashing a glass or pouring milk all over the counter can lead to us berating ourselves and/or others (or in my case a ROBOT).


Whilst the small things cause us inconvenience, it’s not life or death and we won’t give it a second thought tomorrow and so ask yourself,  is your reaction justified?  Is it really worth getting worked up over little things that don’t matter? The logical answer is most definitely not.

Next time you find your blood starting to boil over something insignificant, STOP.  Take a deep breath and ask yourself why you are getting so mad.  Take another deep breath, and laugh, and then deal with the problem to solve, getting on with putting it right calmly.

One of the ways to put small stresses into perspective is to practice daily gratitude.  Every day focus on one or two things that you are grateful for and write these down.  You could even write them in the Self-Love-Ninja Journal which is available Here

Keep on keeping on, be calm, be in control and don’t let your blood boil over things that aren’t worthy.

Author: Angela...aka Self-Love-Ninja

I'm Angela, I transformed my body by transforming my mind and now I am keen to help others create a mindset shift to help them move positively forward and live their best lives. I have 13 years experience transforming businesses and was named by the Lean Management Journal as one of the Lean Top 25; most inspirational individuals in Lean Management (2016) as well as being qualified to level 3a on the Lean Competency System. I’ve spent a lot of my career coaching people through the change curve and my empathic nature has been a real asset. Now I’m taking all of my work experience plus what I’ve learned from my own self-transformation, coupled with NLP, life coaching and nutrition qualifications to bring about change in individuals. I have developed Self-Love-Ninja initially to help me with self-love and now I want to share with others, because it's this that allows us to achieve everything we want to achieve. I recently became a number one best-selling author of a book called Enough, gave up my six figure career as a Director in consulting and became a motivational speaker & coach because I love serving people.

One thought on “Don’t sweat the small stuff”

  1. You’re not alone in it getting on with machines. It takes a lot of deep breathing not to throw my phone to the other end of the room lol! These days I tend to find email or instant messaging best for me! It stops me breaking things!!


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