As the festive season gets closer, the Christmas trees start popping up and the buzz of excitement starts to build, so too does the level of stress. It seems to ooze from the pores of passers-by as they go about their day, hustling, tutting and bustling around the busy shops and markets. The never ending ‘to do’ list, battle for the last car-parking space and hunt for this year’s ‘must have’ children’s toy seems to create a sense of frenzy that leaves many of us feeling frazzled.
Yesterday I found myself in a state of flux as I tried in vein to articulate the department I required on one of those voice activated call direction services. Oh my goodness, how difficult can it be to say the words ‘refunds and exchanges’. I’m from Bolton, and whilst this makes my accent slightly more difficult to detect, I’m not from Timbuktu. I recorded my own audio book so it really can’t be that bad can it? According to the phone system, yes it is! Try as I might, no amount of repetition was going to make me understood.
I found myself having an argument with my mobile phone and could almost see the steam coming out from my ears! Have you ever been there? I caught myself doing it and then on realising how completely ridiculous it was, I proceeded to laugh at myself.
Being a person who likes everything done at record pace and with as little pain as possible, an automated phone system is never going to fill me with joy. My lovely husband usually takes on this type of task for me as he knows how frustrated I become.
And herein lies the lesson. Stop sweating the small stuff. When we have a lot on our plates it’s often the small frustrations or interruptions to the flow that can send us over the edge. In the grand scheme of things though, is it really worth the energy that we gift to it? We have to do it and so why wrap it up in so much negativity? This only serves to make us feel worse.
How are we able to tackle the big tasks, the ones that take thought, consideration, planning, effort and graft and do them well and yet something like smashing a glass or pouring milk all over the counter can lead to us berating ourselves and/or others (or in my case a ROBOT).
Whilst the small things cause us inconvenience, it’s not life or death and we won’t give it a second thought tomorrow and so ask yourself, is your reaction justified? Is it really worth getting worked up over little things that don’t matter? The logical answer is most definitely not.
Next time you find your blood starting to boil over something insignificant, STOP. Take a deep breath and ask yourself why you are getting so mad. Take another deep breath, and laugh, and then deal with the problem to solve, getting on with putting it right calmly.
One of the ways to put small stresses into perspective is to practice daily gratitude. Every day focus on one or two things that you are grateful for and write these down. You could even write them in the Self-Love-Ninja Journal which is available Here
Keep on keeping on, be calm, be in control and don’t let your blood boil over things that aren’t worthy.